Mental Wellbeing and Resilience
“You must find the place inside yourself where nothing is impossible and be willing to redefine yourself everyday.” Deepak Chopra
While in many regards we have had it easy in New Zealand compared to the rest of the world we cannot discount the impact and toll the last two years of COVID life has had on our mental wellbeing.
The most common theme I have been seeing over the last year has been mental fatigue, exhaustion, burn out and the associated feelings of being overwhelmed, feeling vulnerable, anxiety and depression.
In my professional career, I have never witnessed such a time when everyone has complained of feeling so exhausted. Trying to adapt to such a changing environment, different rules and regulations and all the emotions associated with that has been hard.
Vulnerability has been a big piece for many. Many felt isolated and alone over lockdowns and many more have felt fear over what COVID might mean for them and their families.
All of these emotions have kept many in a heightened state of nervous system response, which has led to a lot of adrenal fatigue as there is only so long our bodies can stay in the fight/flight scenario without having the balance of the rest and relaxation.
With extreme mental tiredness we start to notice that our resilience is down. That comment from your partner that normally wouldn’t trigger you all of a sudden feels like a massive deal. The kids are driving you crazy and your relationships at work are starting to annoy you. Switching off at night is getting harder and sleep is disrupted, not to mention the added sugar/alcohol intake.
What is resilience and how do we build more mental resilience?
Resilience is the ability to withstand situations, recover from them quickly and return to a place of peace and harmony. It’s important to understand that resilience isn’t just about surviving something, true resilience offers us an opportunity for spiritual growth.
The unknown has never let me down.” Dr Joe Dispenza
Resilience can often feel easier to maintain in acute situations, it’s under chronic strain and stress overtime where resilience can feel a lot harder to maintain. And this is where we need to be more conscious about how we show up in chronic times of stress.
Building mental resilience
I felt I coped really well with the changing environment that COVID gave us for the first year and a half. I did my best to relax into it with my business, knowing I had no option but to go with the flow. It wasn’t really until mid/late last year that I began to realise my mental resilience was lacking. I was tired, feeling more overwhelmed easily and often felt like I wasn’t acting myself.
I finally took myself off for a walk in nature which is where I do my best reflection and I came home quite clear on where I had to set up a few boundaries. I remembered that I had to be fully accountable for what I let in and I hadn’t been.
I haven’t watched the news for years but I had been constantly listening to talk back and engaging a lot on social media, both of which at the time were disempowering me. So I spent the next 6 weeks having a detox from social media, not reading the news and driving to work in silence, which was bliss and a good place to start in order to build my mental resilience again.
How to strengthen our resilience
Our thoughts create our reality and what we put our attention on grows. When I think about mental resilience the two biggest things that pop up for me are accountability and self compassion as we navigate this part of our journey.
“It is under the greatest adversity that there exists the greatest potential for doing good, both for yourself and others.” Dalai Lama
- Understand what the things are that keep you grounded and clear and make them a priority.
- Have nurturing supportive relationships and reach out when you need support.
- Be clear about what is not serving you and create some healthy boundaries to support that.
- Let go of old beliefs that strength means soldiering on. Courage is taking time out when you need it.
- Be kind to yourself.
How we can support your mental wellbeing at Centered Health
I have always enjoyed supporting mental health and wellbeing. When we feel mentally well and strong we have the opportunity for more joy and peace in our lives.
Through treatment, we can identify what neurotransmitters may need some support in order to balance mood and promote restful sleep. We can help you understand more clearly what old beliefs may be keeping you stuck and exhausted, therefore giving you an opportunity to release these.
Treatment at Centered Health will balance the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual energies in your nervous system, thereby promoting more calm and clarity.
As always, if you need support with your mental wellbeing and resilience please reach out.